Tag: homeschooling

  • Fred Takes Flight

    Fred Takes Flight

    Fly little bird, fly!

    Fred is officially off to college. My little fledgling has spread his wings in spectacular fashion. He’s excited for his independence and diving in to college life as a Presidential Scholar at LaGrange College.

    And what parent doesn’t reflect at this stage?

    As parents, taking a step back to consider how much it took to get them to this point brings a sense of accomplishment as well as relief. And disbelief, too, as you wonder how you made it, everyone still mostly sane. The road is tremendously hard and filled with intense ups and downs. Parenting is often compared to a roller coaster for that very reason, right?

    Throughout our experience in raising fully-formed humans, we have hopes and dreams for them. The details of those may evolve and shift as we see how they progress and their personalities solidify. In the end, though, it just comes down to wanting them to be happy and capable.

    Making his own flight plan

    As they set out on their own in the world, we certainly have things we hope they learned from us and value as we do. There’s never a guarantee they’ll embrace and share those values, though. Leading by example as a parent doesn’t always manifest itself how you think it will or in the way you intended. They are their own special unicorns. They’ve grown up in a very different world from us and they have to proceed in their own context.

    When we started homeschooling quite unexpectedly, my desire was simply to show Fred and George everything I could while I had the chance. Homeschooling opened up huge possibilities for us. The ability to go, see, and do in-person instead of in theory.  We’ve had amazing adventures. You might say they were epic. Thinking back to everything we’ve done together brings a tornado of mind-spinning emotions to the forefront.

    The story underlying the details of those adventures was showing them a broader picture. Different places, people, and ways of life. Experienced in reality, not from a distance or through the one-way filter of media. I wanted them to know they have choices. Whatever those choices end up being, I wanted them to see they have a limitless palette of colors with which to paint the story of their lives.

    In homeschooling our way all over North America, a lot of our adventures involved the outdoors. Yet for all of the time spent outside, Fred isn’t very outdoorsy now. It was always about showing him the possibilities, though. At a minimum I knew it would be good skill building. Philosophically I just wanted them to be flexible, unafraid, and have an appreciation of the outdoors.

    Maybe he’ll swing back around to it one day. Maybe not. Probably not actually; it simply doesn’t seem to call to him. That’s ok. He knows it’s there and I know the experience helped him become the person he is today. My hope is that it set the stage for curiosity, however he chooses to manifest it.

    Soaring

    Obviously I have a lot of swirling thoughts as I watch Fred lunge out of the nest. Rewinding eighteen years of memory newsreel, I keep coming back to the big picture. He knows how big, fabulous, and complex the world is. And for his space in it, he doesn’t feel the need to apologize for, justify, or make excuses for who he is. He knows he can be him, that he’s his own person, and his choices are his responsibility. I can’t tell you how much I love that.

    It’s called empowerment. If I did nothing else right as a parent, I’m thrilled that part stuck. It may be the most important thing after all.

  • A Beginner’s Guide to Death Valley

    A Beginner’s Guide to Death Valley

    In recent years, I’ve had the good fortune to explore Death Valley National Park in a variety of ways: by camping and hiking, motorcycle travel, family travel, a photography workshop, and 4×4 excursions. Through those adventures, I’ve become a huge fan of the park. That means I often get quite enthusiastic about extolling the virtues of what it has to offer visitors.

    So today I’m bringing you a beginner’s guide to Death Valley. Hopefully this basic introduction will give you the important details you need to make the most of your first trip to the park. Be sure to check out the full photo galleries at the end of the post for more images.

    Background

    • Death Valley is the largest national park in the lower 48 states. At over 3.3 million acres, it’s almost as big as the state of Connecticut. Even at its narrowest width, it can take two hours to drive across it.
    • It was designated a national monument in 1933. In 1984, the boundaries were expanded and it became a national park.
    • In spite of its foreboding name, it is rich with history and natural diversity.
    • The park hosts about 1.3 million visitors a year.
    • Activities for visitors in the park include hiking, camping, sight-seeing, bicycling, birding, and backcountry driving.
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    Come see why so many visitors are captivated by Death Valley.

    Before you go

    • Visit the park website. It is the ultimate clearinghouse of introductory information as well as the constantly changing details about road conditions, campgrounds, and points of interest.
    • Understand that there is very little cell service in the park so you can’t rely on your phone for emergencies or even basic communication in the vast majority of the park.
    • There are wide seasonal variations in temperatures and weather. The time of year you visit will dictate how you need to prepare for outdoor activities.
    • The wildflower bloom season in February is very popular. A trip at that time of year often requires lodging reservations months in advance.
    • If you’re coming for dark skies, pay attention to the moon. It may seem obvious, but rangers often encounter visitors who come for the park’s dark sky status but haven’t figured on a full moon. While any nighttime experience in Death Valley is spectacular, pay attention to your timing if your focus is dark skies.
    • Follow the park’s Facebook page. It is active and extremely informative.
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    Wildflower season (typically in late February) is a popular time to visit the park.

    When you get there

    • The visitor center is always the best place to start your adventure in any national park but particularly in Death Valley. The park rangers can help you decide the best way to spend your time at the park, what programs will be offered while you’re there, and give you the latest information on road and trail conditions.
    • Pick up the park’s Visitor Guide newspaper. It is chock full of the most important information all visitors need to know about the park. You can pick one up at the park entrances, hotels, restaurants, or the visitor center. It’s even available online if you want a head start.
    • Once you decide on some activities, pick up a tip sheet for your selections. The park offers individual one-page guides for almost every trail and site. You can find them at the ranger desk in the visitor center.
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    Materials at the visitor center will help you make the most of your Death Valley experience.

    Rules

    • Pay the fee. There are kiosks that accept credit cards at the major entrances or you can pay at the visitor center. Many visitors don’t realize there is an entrance fee to visit the park.
    • Dogs must be on leash at all times. They are permitted along roads, in campgrounds and picnic areas, as well as select developed locations. But there are vast limitations on where you can go with your pet. They’re not permitted on trails, in the open desert, or inside most buildings and they cannot be left unattended in a vehicle. Please choose wisely when considering bringing your pet to Death Valley.
    • You must stay on roads when traveling in a vehicle. But you can hike anywhere; trails are not the limiting factor in Death Valley.
    • Collecting anything in the park is prohibited—rocks, plants, animals, and artifacts are all protected. If you’d like a memento of your visit buy a souvenir from the visitor center. That helps support the park and preserves the landscape for future visitors.
    • Vandalism is a growing problem in all parks and Death Valley has had some high-profile, extremely damaging events in recent years. I know you aren’t planning to drive your car onto the Racetrack Playa like a recent visitor did, but please keep in mind that even building cairns—though it may seem harmless—is considered vandalism. Simply leave the landscape as you found it and future visitors will get to have the rich experience you’ve had.
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    Dogs are welcome along roadways and must be on a leash at all times.

    Safety

    • Water! Dehydration is one of the most serious considerations in Death Valley. Most visitors need more water than they realize. The park experiences more rescue incidents when temperatures are over 100 degrees (F) because it doesn’t feel that hot due to the low humidity. In extreme heat, it’s also crucial to manage your electrolyte levels since your body is losing these, too. Without adequate electrolyte balance, you can still have a critical situation even if you have enough water.
    • In Death Valley a GPS receiver can be misleading at best. Satellite navigation devices often lead visitors to roads their vehicles can’t handle or that don’t exist at all. Pick up a physical, printed park map and orient yourself to the major roads and facilities. Your life could depend on it. The map from the park service is helpful if you’re sticking to the main, paved roads but I highly recommend the National Geographic Death Valley map from Trails Illustrated (Amazon affiliate link).
    • Road conditions change constantly in Death Valley, especially on the vast network of dirt roads. Many of the roads that are usually accessible to an average sedan can sometimes be treacherous depending on recent weather conditions. That’s why it’s important to learn about conditions while you’re there. There are also roads in Death Valley that are only accessible by high-clearance or 4×4 vehicles even at the best of times. It’s important to know which roads are appropriate for your vehicle.
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    Check with park rangers to make sure your vehicle is up to the task on Death Valley’s dirt roads.

    Food, Lodging, and Supplies

    • The three lodging and supply centers within the park are The Oasis at Death Valley (formerly called Furnace Creek), Stovepipe Wells, and Panamint Springs. These privately operated facilities offer hotel rooms, cabins, tent cabins, and campsites for RVs and tents. 
    • There are many camping options within the park, both developed and in the backcountry. Some require reservations but many are first come, first served.
    • Given the location and size of the park things like fuel, food, and supply choices are limited. That also means the prices are higher than many visitors anticipate and it catches them off guard. Visitors simply need to understand it takes more effort to get supplies to the park. It’s extremely isolated. That raises prices.
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    Stovepipe Wells is one of three lodging and supply locations inside the park.

    My recommendations for activities

    For a park the size of Death Valley, the seasonal variations, and the variety of activities you can choose from, it’s nearly impossible to give a definitive recommendation on what to do. Your timing, inclination for adventure, and current park conditions will determine your best choices while you’re there.

    However, for a first-timer, you can’t go wrong with some of these tried and true favorites to initiate yourself to the wonders of Death Valley.

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    Get the whole family involved by participating in the Junior Ranger program.
    • Spend the night in the park. It may be tempting to come in for just a day. But Death Valley is just as spectacular at night as it is in daylight. And in a very different way. Take the opportunity to soak it in and know that one day barely scratches the surface here.
    • Artist’s Drive: It’s like a roller coaster for vehicles, with glorious geologic scenery.
    • Zabriskie Point: Accessible to even the most casual of visitors but a stark and extraordinary landscape.
    • Badwater Basin: At 282 feet below sea level, the salt formations are entrancing.
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    The salt flats of Badwater Basin occasionally flood but you’ll typically find it dry.
    • Dante’s View: Remarkable vista over Badwater Basin. The view is incomparable.
    • Mesquite Sand Dunes: Sunrise and sunset here are captivating. The way the light plays on the sand, ripples, and dunes is magical.
    • Rhyolite Ghost Town: Just outside Death Valley, this ghost town is home to a historic train depot and quirky art. Take your camera and have fun! The sights are truly bizarre and fabulous.
    • Mosaic Canyon is an easy, accessible hike near Stovepipe Wells that gives you an up-close look at the intricacies of the geology of Death Valley.
    • Titus Canyon: If you have a high-clearance vehicle or decide to rent one at the park, this drive is extraordinary and well worth the few hours it will take you. The geology, history, and vistas are amazing.
    • The Racetrack: The famous Racetrack Playa is a huge draw for visitors to Death Valley. Walking amongst the mysterious “floating” rocks is a delight but is only appropriate in dry conditions. Don’t walk on the playa if it is wet or muddy. Getting to the playa involves rugged driving, therefore a high-clearance vehicle is recommended. Check with rangers at the visitor center for advice on whether or not your vehicle is suitable for the current road conditions when you visit.
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    The “floating” rocks of the Racetrack Playa

    Enjoy your visit!

    Of course, this is just enough to get you started at Death Valley National Park. There’s so much more you can dive into if you have the time to go deeper. But that’s a post for another time.

    And like any outdoor adventure, visitors need to approach the park with curiosity as well as caution. For all of its extraordinary beauty and the accessibility provided by the National Park Service, Death Valley is still a wilderness. Armed with the information here and on the park’s website, you’re on your way to having a fantastic experience.

    I have to send out extreme appreciation and thanks to the the fabulous Ms. Abby Wines, National Park Service Management Assistant for Death Valley, for sharing her knowledge about the park with me to help make this guide as comprehensive as possible. Thank you, Abby!

    Activities

    Recommended sights

    Food and lodging

  • On Experiential Education

    On Experiential Education

    Since school is back in full swing at Val in Real Life HQ, I’m diving into experiential education today. Although, I use the terms “school” and “full swing” loosely because when your approach to expanding your children’s knowledge is experiential education, your entire life is a learning experience. And while that is actually true for all of us, kids and adults alike, obviously it’s something we pursue with purposeful intent here.

    Fred and George agree…seeing the real deal is much better than just reading about it.

    For us it’s always difficult to define a beginning and end to our school years. It really becomes simply a calendar issue for reporting-to-the-state purposes so officially we have rung in the new educational year. In reality we’re pretty much doing something educational year-round…and not just during designated “school” hours…and not along a rigid curriculum. This gives us a less-intense but more constant rhythm to our year as opposed to a boom-and-bust cycle.

    We tend phase between unschooling, roadschooling, and the slightly-more-formal homeschooling as necessary to fit our needs. So yes, we have a couple of textbooks but those are the springboards from which we explore the rest our surroundings in the unschooling and roadschooling sense…but they’re just the beginning of our exploration, not the end. And the great thing about books is that they’re portable. As in, you can read anywhere but there’s only one place you can see the Grand Canyon or geocache the E.T. Highway or paddle the Okefenokee Swamp…so why be chained to a desk?

    But really the whole point of this Real Talk post was to share some other bloggers’ great articles that fit in with our experiential education philosophy and why we’ve embraced it. The larger theme here is the power of travel in our learning process but for me these pieces, when knitted together (or in my case, “Pinned” on a board), illustrate the beauty of experiential education…

    Travel as a learning experience…

    Fred and George sporting their shiny new Junior Ranger badges at Ft. Pulaski.

    Putting it together…

    These posts may seem quite disparate but I liked the breadth they cover in terms of what travel can do for us. Certainly the role of travel in education as displayed in these writings is not age-dependent. You’ll notice they aren’t specifically child-centric posts because in truth, we all learn through travel. I know I’m getting a lot from it and I see Fred and George connecting many dots about the world that they probably wouldn’t if not for their experience. It’s not to say that valuable travel can’t be done in addition to a traditional school setting, but their experience would certainly be much less extensive if we were only able to travel during school breaks and then it would be about escaping our everyday lives rather than enhancement.

    So these are just a few of many great posts out there that help me articulate why we do things the way we do here, mainly in that the best learning doesn’t happen sitting indoors behind a desk. What I think they show is that to have a full, rich understanding of our world, history, people and life, you have to get out there and dive into it with all of your senses personally. Reading or hearing about it can only get you so far. True understanding of anything somes with experiencing every smell, sound, taste, touch, and sight for yourself.

    While we may not have the rush of back-to-school mania every autumn, we find other ways to make sure we Gather No Moss and that means embracing experiential travel education. Whether near or far from home it’s all about seeing things in real life which you know is a bit of a theme here… 🙂

    How have your travels educated you?

    Exploring U.S and Georgia history in Plains.
    Fred and George taking in a science class at Gwinnett Environmental and Heritage Center.
    An explosion of sensory input at Great Sand Dunes.
    Hiking, geography, and civil war history all wrapped up in one field trip to Kennesaw Mountain National Battlefield.
    Fred’s first island adventure at Cumberland Island National Seashore that can only be reached by boat.
    The only way to truly know the cold of the Rockies is to go there…
    Not all classrooms are created equally…nor do they need to be age-defined. Here we learn from naturalist Cathy Sakas in the Okefenokee Swamp along with other curious folks of all ages.
    Another perk, getting to play pool with adventurers like David of Family on Bikes.
    A tour of Glen Canyon had Mr. Fred tuckered out on the Colorado River.
    Not all things travel well however. Some subjects are better left at home…
    We love the freedom to run free in the world, learning along the way.