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  • Forty-Three: The Depth of Life

    Forty-Three: The Depth of Life

    Today marks another year under my belt. Like any year, forty-two presented its triumphs and challenges. I’m thrilled with the adventures I was able to have both solo and with the kids, though. For me, that’s the big picture as I look back at the year.

    And to that end, this year marks the beginning of a transition for the crew here at Val in Real Life. Fred and George are growing. Their educational and social needs are changing. That locks them more into staying local to attend classes at their homeschool groups. Which means less opportunities for them to travel. But they’re thriving so it’s all good. I knew this would come; children are moving targets after all.

    For my part, I simply hope I’ve laid the groundwork for their curiosity about the world so as they set out on their own, they do it with open eyes and open minds. We’ll still be traveling and road schooling as much as we can together but, as you can imagine, their new paradigm means my travel is shifting, too.

    So over the next couple of years as the road schooling adventures wind down and my solo travels ramp up, I’ll be making some changes in how I approach them. I’ll take on some challenges that either they weren’t interested in or weren’t appropriate for them. Basically, I get to explore on my terms instead of juggling everyone’s needs and desires.

    Even though I’m beginning to show my age a bit more, I know my best years are still ahead. I’m excited about how much I still have left to do. And as I celebrate my birthday today, I’ll be remembering the amazing things I’ve gotten to do in my life, what lies ahead, and how fully I want to live. Because I know that even having as many years as I’ve had so far is a privilege.

    So I leave you with this. Cheers, friends!

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    The Birthday Series

  • Self Reliance

    Self Reliance

    A lot of folks think I’m nuts for taking off on 16 days of solo travel and adventure. For some it seems daunting and/or dangerous, for others it seems lonely.

    As for the lonely part, it’s a non-issue for me. I’m quite content with my own company and I’m not really alone all that often so it’s a welcome break to simply ramp down and not have to worry about or take care of anyone else. Having some time to explore on my own terms is really a treat.

    As for the daunting part, it’s like anything else—keep practicing and it will start to come naturally. As you push your limits and build on each experience, your notions about what is possible will expand accordingly.

    So yesterday at my beloved Great Sand Dunes, I faced some very challenging weather out exploring and back at camp. Tough weather can happen anywhere as we well know. I don’t look at yesterday’s adventure as more dangerous than anything else in my daily life but I will say that when you’re on your own and you face these kinds of challenges, you find out what you’re made of and it’s very empowering.

    The truth is, anyone can do this, you just have to give yourself the chance. There’s such tremendous freedom and power in knowing you can rely on your own wits in a variety of situations. So I leave you with this—

    Trust thyself; every heart vibrates to that iron string. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

    Learning to navigate the world on your own is a vital skill. Solo adventure helps you find out what you’re made of.